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Self-leadership can be lonely. It’s hard to do the thing no one else wants to do. That no one else is willing to do. But it turns out you’re not alone. There are others showing up to life in extraordinary ways – and getting through hard shit with humor and grace. Join Anne Roche, former criminal defense attorney turned life leadership coach, as she finds the others – those who laugh as they lead, dance as they fight, and allow generosity to outshine fear. Let’s live through this, together.
Episodes
Monday Nov 28, 2022
Monday Nov 28, 2022
Enrika Greathouse is passionate about using human connection and storytelling to help heart-centered entrepreneurs experience exponential growth. She is the founder of Small Gorilla Marketing, the Chief Community Advocate for the Right Company, and a Head Coach for the altMBA. Her work as a global facilitator allows her to practice the art of creating experiences that inspire hope, ignite purpose, and help people to see the wisdom they already carry.
She’s also one of my most favourite people in the world. She’s a dancer, a mom, a creative, a collaborator, a light. Because she’s honest and real about who she is, I feel able to show up as myself. She radiates life and people are drawn to her warmth. When Enrika smiles at you, it feels like the sun is shining just for you.
So it was no wonder that Enrika and I dove in before I even got the chance to introduce her.
The day of our interview, we both showed up full – and not in a good way. We were both feeling overwhelmed and overworked. We got right into that.
Listen to Enrika talk about the power of heart to heart connection, the importance of understanding what other people have the capacity to hold, and how she discovered that we’re all leaders – of ourselves and each other.
Find Enrika at: https://www.smallgorillamarketing.com/
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne in Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
>>>Visit the place where Anne dances as she fights and laughs as she leads - https://www.fireandlight.org/
Monday Nov 21, 2022
Monday Nov 21, 2022
In this episode, I speak with Warren Gendel and Scott Raymond about creating space – in this case, a physical space – for people to put down their fears and take a step into possibility. We talk about their fitness business here in Marin, Club Evexia, and how passion, speaking from one’s heart, and building trust are the key to creating not just a physical space but also a connective space for people to feel seen and heard.
I heard them both talk about passion, talking about what you deeply believe in, alignment, shared goals, friendliness, acknowledgment, and building trust as a way to help people put down their fears and move forward.
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne in Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
>>>Visit the place where Anne dances as she fights and laughs as she leads - https://www.fireandlight.org/
Monday Nov 14, 2022
Monday Nov 14, 2022
Every conversation I’ve had with Noel Ciminello has contained laughter, connection, and insight. This is no exception.
Noel is a multi-faceted person. He co-founded a transportation company in Massachusetts called Yes! We Van!, but he’s also been in the banking world for 26 years and began his career designing combat control system for the Navy.
But he’s most proud of being married to his lovely wife, Debbi, and being a father of 4 children.
In this conversation we talk about how Noel uses a smile, eye contact, or laughter (sometimes all three!) to find connection with everyone. He believes that there is good in everyone, that we can learn from every person, and if he’s able to hear their story, he can find the common thread between them.
Listen to Noel talk about how the true gift of connection is not just giving someone else a place to put down their fear and feel heard, but also the growth and discovery that takes place in self.
Connect with Noel Ciminello:
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne in Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
>>>Visit the place where Anne dances as she fights and laughs as she leads - https://www.fireandlight.org/
Tuesday Nov 08, 2022
Tuesday Nov 08, 2022
Jodi wrote to me after our interview and spoke of how when you learn the skills of listening, you get invited into the game. Similar to learning how to play soccer means you get to play with others. “Too often”, Jodi wrote, “people describe listening as work when, really, it’s just playing with others.”
Playing – and inviting others to play along - perfectly sums up my friend Jodi. She’s a longtime educator guided by curiosity and empathy, the kind of friend who will show up and give you exactly what you need in that moment, and an amazing listener – a skill she has spent a lifetime learning.
Jodi taught in Quaker schools and discovered the power of Clearing Committees – a group of people who ask questions so you can hear your own answers. Sounds like the precursor to coaching.
Hear how awareness is the key to good listening and how the joy of connecting can be learned.
Connect with Jodi Pickering:
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne in Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
>>>Visit the place where Anne dances as she fights and laughs as she leads - https://www.fireandlight.org/
Tuesday Nov 01, 2022
Tuesday Nov 01, 2022
Renée Waggener inspired Season 3 of How I Live Through This. As a flight attendant for Alaska Airlines, Renee used humor and kindness to set the tone for a flight I was on. I knew I had to meet her.
We hit it off instantly talking about the transformational power of how a person shows up. Turns out, we’re both iPEC trained coaches. The difference between us? Renee uses her coaching skills not as a coach but as a way to connect to others in her job – with far reaching implications for everyone on the flight. Together we came up with the idea that giving people space to be heard and seen is like being an undercover coach. Season 3 took flight in that moment.
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Subscribe to Anne's Newsletter - https://www.fireandlight.org/
>>> Follow Anne in Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
Resources:
alaskaair.com
Saturday Oct 22, 2022
Saturday Oct 22, 2022
This season, Undercover Coaches, was inspired by a flight attendant I met who used her listening skills as a way to connect, calm, and create an extraordinary experience for the passengers and crew.
Our interaction made me realize that I have met a lot of people who aren’t expert listeners or trained coaches but who use empathy, curiosity, and generosity to connect and create space for other people to step into possibility. I call them undercover coaches.
People in my audience were saying, your guests are amazing but I don’t have these coaching or leadership skills. I can’t do that work because I don’t know how to. What if I get it wrong. What if I make a mistake.
I feel exactly the same way. Every goddamn day.
And I’m calling bullshit on both of us.
If I’ve learned anything these past few years, it’s that no one is coming to save us. The curtain has been pulled back and it’s clear that it’s up to each one of us to show up and put in the work to make the change we want to see in the world.
Sometimes, that work is as simple as a conversation.
In this season, I interview people - including that flight attendant - who show up intuitively using these skills. My hope is that I learn how to use these tools more fluently, not just as a coach, but in my everyday life and interactions.
I’m hoping you find them useful as well.
Join me – let’s live through this, together.
Season 3 coming November 1st!
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne in Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
Listen to Sean Murphy, a former police dispatcher with the Boston Police Department for almost 17 years, talk about the need for mental health services within law enforcement. He shares his own insightful story of what peer support meant to him after failing to take care of his own health for years. Sean talks about how accepting support from his trusted peers – other first responders – was critical to his own survival.
What shifts when people own up to their mistakes? What shifts when we, as a culture, see greater strength in vulnerability than in bravado? And what becomes possible inside of law enforcement when accountability and vulnerability are no longer taboo subjects? Sean shares the signs of change he sees because more people are sharing their stories of needing – and receiving – help.
It’s hard to remain optimistic when trying to change large, entrenched organizations. Change on this scale feels impossible. But sharing stories like Sean’s, one by one, allows us to find the humanity in each other.
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
Connect with Sean Murphy:
On-Site Academy https://onsiteacademy.org/
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
I first met Jessica Nowaski when I started researching the role of coaching in law enforcement.
In my arrogance, I had assumed the idea of coaching in policing was a new one. Jess shattered my illusion. She talked, as a deputy police chief, about the need for a shift in the culture of law enforcement and how she was using coaching as a tool of leadership development to do just that.
I was bowled over by what she was saying and by the realization that there were already lots of people within the industry showing up to the hard work. Change in an established industry is slow but there are people like Jess sowing seeds.
Jessica and I spoke of how our perspectives were different – how we were coming to the conversation from different starting points, but how our desire to be part of change, and our love of coaching, unified us and our goal of better policing.
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
Connect with Jessica Nowaski:
>>> Connect with Jessica on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessicanowaski/
>>> Follow Jessica on Twitter - https://twitter.com/Chief_Nowaski
Resources:
ICF – International Coaching Federation https://coachingfederation.org/
Adaptive Leadership
- https://youtu.be/ioocNc-HvTs
- https://youtu.be/af-cSvnEExM
Adult Development Robert Keegan and Lisa Lahey
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
What happens when a loving mother shows her young son the power of giving? That young boy grows up to be a deeply kind, generous giver in return. Come hear the story of Mandell Conway and his desire to bake philanthropy into the fabric of everything we do.
We talk about Mandell’s project Giving Is Like and the importance of listening in philanthropy. He shares his stories of heart centered, intentional giving and the idea of celebrating people as a form of giving back. Everyone has the power to be a philanthropist and Mandell gives examples of how easy it can be – especially when done from love.
Giving from a position of love allows a ripple effect. When Mandell’s mother taught him about tithing, she couldn’t have known she was planting the seed for Mandell’s life-long desire to give back. But she would have been so proud of the man he’s become.
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
Connect with Mandell Conway:
>>>Follow Mandell on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mandellconway/
Resources:
Listen to Mandell: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3eW5XxHoVp0lNW16gjPO8h?si=HPP0Zo2KSgS3AkMI_Jfrkg
Nelson Mandela https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nelson_Mandela
Akimbo Workshops https://akimbo.com/workshops
Story Skills Workshop https://akimbo.com/thestoryskillsworkshop
The Kingdom of Heaven is like… https://www.biblegateway.com/quicksearch/?search=the%20kingdom%20of%20heaven%20is%20like&version1=50&searchtype=phrase
McBride Sisters - https://www.mcbridesisters.com/
She Can Fund https://www.mcbridesisters.com/Our-Story/SHE-CAN-Fund
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
Tuesday Feb 01, 2022
Talking with Bithiah Carter, President of New England Blacks and Philanthropy, is always a delight. We have fun, dive deep, and tend to say the things other people are afraid to say outloud.
This conversation was no different. We talk philanthropy – what it was, what it has become, and where it’s headed.
What shifts when we democratize philanthropy by returning to a focus on time, ties and talents as well as treasure? Every action becomes an important action and every person may lead from their own seat.
We also talk stories - how understanding the stories of those before us and beside us allow us deeper connections to each other. We don’t empower others – we can only give power to ourselves. But when we connect and understand each other, we use our individual powers to raise up the collective.
Philanthropy grounded in love is transformational. And no one believes in the power of love more than Bithiah Carter.
Connect with Anne Roche:
>>> Visit Anne’s Website - https://annerochecoaching.com/
>>> Follow Anne on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annerochecoaching/
>>> Connect with Anne on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/annerochecoaching/
Connect with Bithiah Carter:
>>> Connect with Bithiah on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/bithiahcarter/
Resources
New England Blacks in Philanthropy: http://www.nebip.org/
Caste by Isabel Wilkerson https://www.isabelwilkerson.com/
Horizontal Philanthropy:
National Philanthropic Trust: https://www.nptrust.org/
History of Giving: https://www.historyofgiving.org/
Harambee
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harambee
- https://www.bbc.com/travel/article/20201004-harambee-the-kenyan-word-that-birthed-a-nation
Giving Black Hampton Roads: https://hamptonroadscf.org/leadership-initiatives/diversity-equity-and-inclusion/giving-black-hampton-roads
1619 Project: https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2019/08/14/magazine/1619-america-slavery.html
Combined Jewish Philanthropies: https://www.cjp.org/about-us
W.K. Kellogg Foundation: https://www.wkkf.org/
The Crown Act: https://www.thecrownact.com/